Kate is a senior single in her church, dedicated to the service of God, and always radiating joyful contentment instead of the usual desperation to marry that is common among sisters of her age.
John on the other hand is a brother everyone called “married bachelor” as he is married but raising two children all alone. His wife left him and ran away with another man. She told him she was done with the marriage and asked him to move on and find another wife. He had gone to look for her in the home of her lover, only to be walked out by the man. Broken, John had confided in his pastor, who prayed with him and encouraged him. “God will comfort you,” his pastor said.
Four years after his wife left, John informed the church and the pastor that he wanted to remarry. His pastor told him that since his wife was still living, he could not remarry. The church had a policy of one man, one wife, for life. However, John was insistent. He said he just could not go on without a wife anymore, lest he fall into sin. John continued to mount pressure on the church leaders to consider his plight, and after much persuasion, the leaders finally gave in, on the condition that he would have to forfeit all his leadership positions in the church.
John agreed to this condition and promptly approached Kate, who was receptive to him. As their courtship progressed, it became apparent to all around them that it was a match made in heaven. Soon, they were engaged.
Their traditional wedding was very colourful. Due to the fact that it was John’s second marriage, their leaders had decided to do a church blessing for them in the children’s section of the church upon their return from Kate’s hometown. Then the unimaginable happened. Just two weeks to the church blessing, John’s first wife showed up with tears in her eyes. She had learned the error of her ways, repented, and now craved her husband’s forgiveness and the restoration of their marriage bond.
John was never legally divorced from his wife. When he decided he wanted to get another wife, he simply went to his wife’s family, explained the situation to them, and informed them that he was no longer interested in the marriage. Since John and his first wife never got a divorce, he is in a fix. The church council has however informed John that he has to stay with his first wife. They told Kate that John would return her bride price, and God would bring her own husband.
Church- wants John to stay with his first wife
Kate- wants John to divorce his first wife and stay with her. She feels betrayed by the church.
1st wife- wants her marriage restored, and Kate out of her husband’s life
John- is in a tight corner. He seems to want both women; he’s unable to let go of either
Readers, what do you think? Does the first wife have any right to come back in this way? Is Kate being fairly treated by the church? What should John do?