When my brother’s friend, Frank, called to say he was getting married, I was excited. I asked him what the date was, and he said he would let me know. To my surprise, months passed and I still had not gotten a date.
Finally, we meet face to face and I ask him if there’s a problem. He says the churches are refusing to wed them because his wife-to-be is 4 months pregnant. So I ask why they can’t just go for church blessing, as couples in this situation usually do. He says no; he wants a church wedding with his pregnant bride.
In most churches under the Christian Association of Nigeria (CAN), you cannot have a church wedding if you are pregnant. Most churches now require the following before they can conduct your wedding in the church:
1. Genotype test
2. Blood group test
3. Hepatitis A, B, and C test
4. Bank account statement
5. Certificate of qualification
6. House fellowship attendance
7. Consent letter from parents
Frank could not find a church to marry them and this made him very angry. He felt the church was just being hypocritical because, according to him, 90% of the people who get married in church have been sexually intimate with their intended spouse.
A lady I know had an abortion 3 weeks to her wedding because the church would call off the wedding if they found out she was pregnant, and she could not deal with the embarrassment; the invitations had already gone out.
Did I mention that in many churches every bride-to-be must take a pregnancy test a day to the wedding?
Frank tells me that God has forgiven him and his wife-to-be for their sin of fornication, and so the church should also move past it. Or do they want his fiancée to have an abortion? He insists that he and his wife have to be married in a church.
What do you think? Is he right to insist on a church wedding with the pregnancy? Are these church rules really fair?
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