Emeka’s Dilemma

Emeka, the 1st of 3 children, works with a multinational oil company. Sometime last year he received a call from home that his father was very ill. After medical evaluation, it was discovered that his father had cancer. The whole family was devastated, with Emeka’s mother weeping inconsolably. Emeka immediately started talking to some people, who told him about a hospital in India with a team of specialists that he could send his father to. However, the whole thing — logistics and treatment — was going to cost N15 million which Emeka did not have in cash, so he sold his land, took a loan from his office cooperative, and borrowed a million naira from his friend Jide, successfully raising the N15 million which he sent to his parents so they could go to India and commence treatment.

As a result of the cooperative loan that Emeka took, his take-home would now be N35, 000 because he wanted to make the duration of the loan shorter to enable him finish paying it off quickly.

After Emeka sent the money, he noticed that his father started avoiding his calls and even his mother started acting funny. At the time they were supposed to leave for India, they started giving excuses, so Emeka decided it was time to pay them a visit. That was when his father opened up, telling Emeka that he gave the money to his younger brother Onyedika to put in his business and that he did not travel anymore because he wanted to use traditional medicine. After all, what was he doing alive and in health if his sons were not doing well? He said he had saved a part of the money for his last son and kept the remaining for his own use. Emeka almost wept at what his father told him, but he held himself together because of the respect he had for him.

A year has passed and his father is terribly sick, his mother calling on him in tears not to let her husband die. They now want to go to India; his father has apologised for his decisions, and now Emeka’s uncles and other members of his extended family are on his neck to do something.

What should Emeka do?

Should he sell his house for his father to go to India? Should he let his father, who raised him and gave him an education, die since he already made his choice? What is the guarantee that his father will survive?

Please help Emeka with your words of wisdom.

4 thoughts on “Emeka’s Dilemma

  1. Can i take a minute to be upset on Emeka's behalf? Lol…. But seriously this is a rather common situation, very unfortunate and annoying but quite common cos many parents don't realize the pressure they put their children under. Maybe we need to stop shielding them so much a d tell them how it really is, i.e. Mom, Dad, I'm owing!! I borrowed from two cooperatives and right now my take home for my family is only 35k! Sorry, I can't do anything more at this point.

    Except they want to create health issues for their child and add to current situation, Emeka CANNOT, SHOULD NOT borrow any more money, or sell his house and begin to pay rent on top of the 35k he's already taking home. Haba!!!

    Meanwhile, bros that started business with deception can you come forward at this point? At least he's been in a multi million naira business for one year (which Emeka/his wife prob don't have), so, profits? He should take full responsibility this time around.

    And can parents try to understand that there are boundaries, limits ? You don't deceive ypur child like that and still come back to say you're now ready to go abroad! Smh…


  2. They should all put heads together as a family and decide this time..He can't watch the father die no matter what happened..It's only God that can intervene this time


  3. Yup. I dunno his financial situation or responsibilities. Its one thing to be homeless as a single guy and another thing to take such risk with a family. I think he should discuss the whole situation with the family. All siblings. Who’s paying and how is he getting the money back? Sign a legal document if you have to. Everybody should contribute. They should make a commitment to be fulfilled Now or in the nearest future.


  4. In every situation we find ourselves, we should not fall into the temptation of taking the logical, emotional, selfish, self-willed, or popular direction, but we should consider it from God’s perspective.

    The Bible says we should honour our father and mother so our days may be long, and this is the first commandment with a blessing. A father’s blessing on a child is one of the blessings that carry heavy power. That is why wise men of old bless their children before they die.

    When you make your parents happy by honouring them, and they put a blessing on you from the joy of their heart, that blessing follows you from everlasting. However, when you dishonour them and cause pain to their heart, and they put a curse on you, only our Lord Jesus can save you.

    The Bible also says that parents should not provoke their children to wrath. Yet, even if they do, children it is not your place to reprimand, insult, or rebuke them. If you see that there is a need to correct them, ensure that it is done in honour so as not to bring a curse on yourself.

    Emeka should do everything within his power to save his father’s life. God is his reward.

    Remember that God’s love for you is abundant and overflowing, and it does not fail.

    Love and blessings,
    Tolu Banjo.


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