Kayode was in his mid-40s when he met 26-year-old Lara. He was unmarried, and had been turned down by 3 women in the last two years. He was now desperate to marry because 50 was not far away.
Lara was an easygoing girl and although liked and respected Kayode, she felt the age difference between them was much. She also didn’t approve of his drinking and the late nights he kept.
Kayode started putting pressure on Lara to marry him. She said no, but he started crying, begging her, so Lara asked him to give her some time to think about his proposal.
Lara took the issue to her aunt for counsel, and her aunt told her that Kayode truly loved her, so she should not turn him down “just” because of drinking.
Kayode and Lara eventually got married, and she had two sons in quick succession. By the 4th year of their marriage, Kayode’s behaviour had deteriorated. He came home past midnight, and drank heavily. When Lara complained, he often answered her with a slap.
She once tried to talk to him about his behaviour in one of his sober moments, and was saddened by his response.
“Are you not happy that I come home at all? Some of my friends do not even sleep at home!”
Shortly after that he sat her down and told her he wanted out of the marriage. He said he had married her out of desperation because of his age; he was not patient enough to wait for his true love. Now, he had found her, and he could not let her go. He promised to settle Lara with some money, and told her he had already called his people to inform them.
Lara could not understand what was going on. She confided in her friend Tola who told her it was all the work of the devil and urged her to fight for her marriage. Tola took Lara to see her pastor’s wife, after which Tola and Lara started holding night vigils, fasting and praying for the restoration of Lara’s marriage. At this stage, Kayode now came home only on weekends.
Kayode’s family and friends were totally against him on the divorce issue, and many of them tried to intervene, but Kayode refused to listen. He told them he should never have married Lara in the first place; she was not even a graduate and as such was below his standard.
Lara is praying day and night for God to restore her marriage, while Kayode’s only desire is to be left alone to marry the one he loves.
What should Lara do? Should she keep praying and fighting for her marriage, or should she let go?
Please advise her.