My Mum or My Dad?


Eighteen-year-old Rekia came home from school one Saturday morning to spend the weekend with her parents. She ate and chatted a little with her mother before heading to her room. Just as she entered her room, she heard the gate of the compound opening and suddenly her mother burst into her room and knelt down.

“Rekia your Dad is around, please say that the man in the house is your boyfriend and he came to ask for your hand in marriage, please.”

Rekia was confused; she did not understand what her mother was saying. “Which man?”

“Please just say he came to ask for your hand in marriage,” her mother begged, clasping her hands together.

Rekia’s father is married to three women: one in Kaduna, the other in Zaria, and Rekia’s mother in Abuja. Not long ago, rumours reached Rekia’s father that whenever he travels, Rekia’s mother brings a man home. So that fateful Saturday, he decided to come home unannounced in order to catch her red-handed, and he came with his two brothers.

When Rekia’s father entered the house, he met a man seated in the living room who looked to be in his 50s.

“Who is this man and what is he doing in my house?”

“He came to ask for Rekia’s hand in marriage,” Rekia’s mother answered.

Rekia’s father called her out and asked her if she knew the man, and if he came to ask for her hand in marriage.

“Yes, baba,” Rekia lied.

When her father asked why he came so early in the morning, Rekia said he was coming from a long distance and had to leave Abuja early. In fact, since he had been told Rekia’s father was not around, he was on his way out.

Rekia’s father looked at her with disappointment and betrayal in his eyes. He asked again if Rekia knew the man and if indeed he had come to ask for her hand in marriage, and again Rekia affirmed her mother’s story.

At this, her father said he granted his consent and that the wedding should hold in 3 weeks.

Rekia does not approve of her mother’ actions, and she knew nothing about her mother’s adultery until that Saturday. She took the swift decision to cover her mother because theirs is a polygamous family and the shame would be too much if her father divorced her mother. She and her younger brother would have to go and live with their stepmothers, and they would suffer.

Rekia’s father on the other hand feels betrayed by Rekia. He cannot believe his own child would do that to him. Her uncles are begging her to tell the truth. Rekia had not expected her father to come up with the decision for her to marry the man. The father she knows would never give any of his daughters in marriage to an old man.

Now, Rekia’s mother is begging her to stick to the story and not expose her.

Please advise Rekia.


12 thoughts on “My Mum or My Dad?

  1. Is this a true story???
    Wow! Life is stranger than fiction
    Well…the man can change his mind abt marrying her and disappear 4eva. Not an issue
    As for her father, he cannot feel betrayed by Rekia because she had to save her mother. The man could have murdered her or all of them
    She has no choice but to use this as a threat to keep her mother from continuing to sleep around. And I hope she moved out soon. That house is unsafe


  2. Very simple, Reika should telll the father the truth. I bet the lie will not stop her adulterous mother from bringing another man to the house again. To be at peace with herself, she should just say the truth.


  3. Rekia’s future can not be mortgaged by a lie. Rekia has a whole future ahead of her. Besides she does not have to go the way of her mother by marrying to a polygamous family. Rekia must tell her father the truth and free herself and her conscience. We can hide our iniquity from men, but the God of all men sees it in 500 inches 3D television.


  4. Well in my opinion Rekia should stick to her words. The whole plot was built on lies by liars (father and mother); how does the truth standout in this situation? She’s just caught up in d middle of a very nasty mess of two horrible parents. She should pick one struggle not both (Liar or internally displaced person)

    Liked by 2 people

  5. Well, there is no need for Rekia to go back on her words. Her mother is a disgrace but she doesn’t have to wash her mom’s dirty linen in public. She can use this to stop or reduce her mother’s infidelity. For the marriage plan by her father, she can say they broke up and that they are not compatible. Of course the man can’t come to pay bride price without her consent na.

    Liked by 2 people

  6. She should stick to the story. Some lies are not worth rescinding. It is most likely that the fathers not a saint either. She can always give an excuse of why the marriage cannot go ahead, if her mother and the old man had abut shame they will come up with a way to avoid her marrying the man. Poor girl, caught between the devil and the dep blue sea.

    Liked by 2 people

  7. The key to unlocking this already complicated issue also lies the old man. He can always change his mind from choosing to marry Rekia, and save everybody the headache. As for the mother and father’s issues…. That’s another answer.

    Liked by 2 people

  8. Make Rekia no try am oh. In as much as she will be in bondage forever with an older man, what is the guarantee that the man will not cheat on her with her mum cos that is who the man really loves and has been dating. She had better save herself all the future torture and say the truth. The truth will set her free…

    Liked by 2 people

Leave a Reply

Fill in your details below or click an icon to log in: Logo

You are commenting using your account. Log Out /  Change )

Google+ photo

You are commenting using your Google+ account. Log Out /  Change )

Twitter picture

You are commenting using your Twitter account. Log Out /  Change )

Facebook photo

You are commenting using your Facebook account. Log Out /  Change )

Connecting to %s